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5D Icebreaker: Why 'Know Thyself' is Paramount

Are you craving a deeper connection with others but aren't sure how to find it? Have you wondered how to connect better with friends or family? We often see the struggle as connecting with others to be dependent on our common grounds, opinions, or even social quality we possess. All of these own a plot in the ether that brings two beings together. But what if there is more to the picture than connecting with someone through these means? What if there is another way to connect with others which leads to a more fulfilling relationship?

We are all on a journey to find ourselves, but we tend to want to go outward most times to find ourselves in other things. Commonly, we let external things that are not us define our identity. This can be noted in brief icebreakers of a conversation. To establish conversation, we may ask how someone is doing (which the answer is usually a socially predicted "good"), what a person does (inferred as work or hobbies), or what their interests are. These icebreakers help us build a starting image or first impression about a person. Interestingly, we will subconsciously note any mannerisms or other non-verbal behavior to help establish and build a definition to who they are. These describe what we might call secondary qualities of identity: what we do, act, like, etc. When we ask about primary qualities of the individual, it's usually confined to a name, which most of us did not choose anyway.

Identity is faced with a troublesome platform of containing primarily abstract qualities into forms. While we may form images of friends and family with secondary qualities, it is actually forming a pseudo-image of their person. The identity does not lie in secondary qualities; it lies in primary qualities. But how can we formulate primary identity qualities when we our very nature, society, and order are fixated on secondary means to an end?

If we could revamp the common icebreaker questionnaires to develop questions that actually tell about who we are, then conversations may take large leaps in connection. We can't have that now, can we? If you are like me, then you may want a deeper connection quicker. (Fun fact: I actually do not do well with small talk because I seek that deeper connection automatically. It is who I am.) Some do and some don't; I respect that in each person.

Here lately, I am on a journey of answering the question "Who are you?" Well, I find it hard to relay who I am for a primary icebreaker - actually, it is a little difficult for a secondary icebreaker as well. I find it easier to let my light shine and let the light tell who I am. This ability takes some inner devotion and practice however. It isn't a regular occurrence in getting to know one another. Why? Because it isn't natural to our 3D setup; it is a 5D setup where there is union, peace, telepathy, and transparency.

In regular devotional/prayer/meditation practice, kindle the fire of identity within. Remember it has no words, but it is full of love. Feeling gratitude, loving-kindness, or peace about oneself is usually the first step towards this happy place. It is often overlooked because we want to focus on the end goal - sculpting a form of self, whether with words or images or sounds or feelings. But, if you notice, within the gratitude, loving-kindness, or peace, we experience who we are without any form. In that first step is when we see who we are. And there are not really any further steps to this practice, except to hold your light. This moment is the paramount moment we are who we are and we are playing that out in being it.

How easy is it to see a light when the light is yourself? We can see other's light because they shine differently or may have a different color/hue. This nature is only experiential and is complicated to mold to any 3D version or sketch of a primary identity form.

Nonetheless, the icebreaker of shining our light still stands. We harness who we are in spirit as we encounter new friends. This might take some advanced practice, but you will know you got it when you can embrace the image of another person on your eyes while holding that peace within your heart, knowing who you are and knowing you are just like them, in the form of inner light. When this happens, I have a slight smile on my face, and I feel like my light reaches their light.

Surrounded by the unknown connections swimming in secondary icebreakers, it is a primary icebreaker to open the heart and share your light - not with words, but by being oneself, harnessing this light within. Those non-verbal cues we exude - when we naturally are who we are - is what we call energy; and our energy is the best tool for sharing who we are as a primary icebreaker. No words necessary - but a smile might help. 

Following are a couple of examples of well-known religious figures who shined their light effectively that their moment of deeper connecting was recorded to share that the person did not share who they are - in primary or secondary means - but that their light was known intuitively by their seekers.

|| When Shams met Rumi, the beloved Sufi poet, Shams saw in Rumi what we know today before he went up to meet him. Shams connected with Rumi immediately on a deeper level. Their awareness met and fell into a deep instant connection, from which inspired the many works Rumi compiled. 

|| When Jesus asked his disciples who they considered him to be, Jesus never told them, nor confirmed. The disciples were the first to call him Prophet and Messiah. The spirit of Jesus was introduced to the disciples before he told them who he was.

And so, let your light shine before men... for whatever reason! It is more important to be who we are than to tell others who we are. Light travels farther than sound.
 

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